How to stop being a victim.
Updated: Dec 8, 2020
We've all been a victim of something at some point in our lives. Whether it's being bullied or losing money to a credit card fraud. But for some of us, we begin to feel like a victim in life regardless of the circumstances.
Once you beginning feeling the world is against you or that everything is just bad luck, you'll be on a road towards feeling completely unable to control anything that happens to you. The longer this continues, the worse it will get and over time, you run the risk of being unable to return to the person you were.
I've met many people like this in my journey through life and I'd be lying if I didn't admit the odd occasion of finding myself yelling at some imaginary person who must be responsible for the run of bad luck I've had at one time or another.
As hard as it is, the only way to change your luck, is to take responsibility for your decisions. Plus, when you do get dealt some genuine bad luck, see it for exactly what it is and realize that the person next to you has probably had an equal share of their own at some point. And in a great many cases, people have had a great deal more.
The more we become the victim, the more self-absorbed we become. Placing ourselves outside of what everyone else experiences, elevated to some specially selected few that are being picked on by a higher power.
Placing fault on some unknown entity or person just shifts away the responsibility from ourselves for making change. Change isn't easy, which is why we blame things out of our control.
If you want to change the start questioning what you believe. Your beliefs and values drive your behaviour.